(formally from 'Medicine Wheel Lodge' in respect of Cheryl's rites of
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By: Free Spirit
Here is something to get you started until I get some info organised. However
there are plenty of other articles related to men's rites of passage
and I strongly recommend you also read the article: 'Rites
and Wrongs of Passage'.
I hope you get something helpful
out of it.
"Restoring Sacred Masculinity"
Teachings from the ‘The Sacred Circle’
from Jim Tree
Adam Fortunate Eagle and Jim Tree
Jim teaches the following principals through audio and video CD's/DVD's, as well as through scheduled workshops and teleseminars. He also holds "intensive" workshops in the Selwaywilderness of Montana twice a year, (for more information about these, contact Jim at
For information on a unique 8 week seminar where Jim is joined by Karen Curry in teaching how to find the balance of both the Sacred masculine and the Divine feminine within each one of
us, contact Jim.
For many years it has been one of Jim's responsibilities to work towards the restoration of the Sacred Manhood, the true expression of what it means to be a man. He has been doing this through a series of teachings called "Restoring Sacred Manhood, restoring the broken hoop."
These teachings come from several sources, Jim's own life experiences, the teaching of Native American Elders, and several other original expressions of what it is to be a man.
For centuries before the arrival of the Europeans, Native American boys grew up knowing how to be men of strength and true character. This was because they lived in a society where they were confronted daily by strong examples they could emulate. In today’s world there are few such examples a young man can pattern himself after.
In the summer of 1997, high in the mountains of central Colorado, a group of over 3000 Native American men gathered to hear the unified voices of Elders representing over 100 North American tribes.
The topic; what it means to be a man of character in today’s world.
Jim was privileged to participate in this gathering.
Seven "Philosophies" were presented to those in attendance as a guide to becoming the very highest expression of what it means to be a man. You can obtain a booklet of these teachings through the White Bison group at
After several years of fully embracing the inter-tribal teachings passed on at the gathering in Colorado, Jim was asked by several of his Elders to pass them on to men through a tradition called the Buffalo Lodge.
Jim was asked to do this not because he had memorized the teachings, but because he lived them in a day to day world.
[Sitting Owl's emphasis]
These teachings are not just Jim’s; they are the wisdom of the ancestors passed down through the ages. They have survived because they work. Thousands of men have proven their effectiveness in today’s society.
Traditionally, a special lodge, called the Buffalo lodge by many tribes, was set up in most Native American villages as a place where men of all ages could gather and share life’s lessons as well as its frustrations. These teachings are now for every man, no matter your heritage, if you yearn to be the best man, father, mate or citizen you can be, then you may want to explore these teachings further. Through them you can learn how to truly
honour and respect all of creation, including yourself.
Restoring the Masculine, part 1
The Seven Philosophies: © White Bison Inc.
Philosophy 1: How to relate towards women.
Philosophy 2: How to relate towards children.
Philosophy 3: How to relate to your community.
Philosophy 4: How to relate towards Elders.
Philosophy 5: How to relate towards Creation.
Philosophy 6: How to relate towards the Creator.
Philosophy 7: How to relate towards yourself.
Restoring the Sacred Masculine, part 2
The Seven Totems
(Levels) of a strong relationship
These lessons are based on the examples of seven participles represented in nature that provide a blueprint to building healthy relationships, be it between individuals, family, groups or even nations. Using the example of seven animals, this presentation builds on essential attitudes and understandings that have proven effective in building not only successful relationships, but also how your relationship can become the highest expression of a sacred relationship, the Eagle Union, a union that is one of total service to all of creation. Though not a common relationship in times past, the necessity for Eagle Unions is becoming vital in today’s shifting world situation.
Truth is the foundation of any good relationship. First, you must be truthful with yourself, and then with those you would be in relationship…right from the start. It is foolish to build on a false base that will only be found out in the future. Often we think we will present ourselves as one thing hoping that once they get to know us, the thing we misrepresent will not matter.
Picture in your mind a beaver. They are what one would call “single minded”. They will work day and night to build a dam. The damn provides for a multitude of natures children. If something should threaten the damn they will work none stop until it is repaired. So it is with a relationship. It is like the damn, and if the relationship is one called forth by the Devine, then we need to be committed to doing whatever is needed to build, maintain or repair it.
Porcupines are the image of loyalty in a relationship. They will stay by the side of their partner even after they die. They will morn the loss for days, much as the elephants of Africa have been known to do. Being loyal to someone no matter what their condition or circumstance is vital for a good relationship. How do you talk about your partner when they are not around?
If you watch a wolf pack, you will see what true humility is. It is the understanding of not only who you are in the pack, but who you are not. The only way an extended family can function properly is if everyone
fulfils their role in that family. Are you an alpha leader? Or are you an uncle, one who helps the alpha
fulfil its roll?
There is no more apt example of courage than that of a mother black bear defending her cub. Even in the face of certain death from a male grizzly bear, the black bear will be so full of love inspired courage that the grizzly will back down even though in the physical realm it would easily kill the mother. A good relationship needs to be defended with this kind of courage in order to access the supernatural help needed for its full expression.
This name translates into “Great Friend” and refers to what is known as “Bigfoot”. This being is a very real part of our existence with many reports of interaction through out the centuries. Since you may not have any first hand exposure to the Great Friend, I will describe what has been told to me. Gitchi Sabe is the most powerful, physically as well as in other ways, creature in the woods. It is also one of the most gentle. It depicts for us the gentile but firm use of amazing power to protect and nurture a relationship.
When Golden Eagles mate, they mate for life. Not only this, but should one of them die, the other will not find a new mate. There is a type of wedding ceremony called the “Eagle wedding”. It is when a couple who have been married for some time decides to devote their relationship to the service of the people. In the ceremony, vows are taken that if one of the couple should pass over, the other will continue to serve the people instead of starting a new relationship. The entire focus of the Eagle marriage is to serve selflessly as a team. This kind of service is often only attempted after the children are grown and the couple has proven the strength and endurance of their relationship. It is the highest expression of a relationship to have Eagle medicine; it is to realize that the purpose of the relationship is to serve others.
Restoring the Sacred Masculine, part 3
The four ceremonies of Two Bears.
Effective tools to discovering who and what you were born to be.
1. Receiving a Name
2. Meeting your council
3. The Vigil
4. Facing of your fears
5. The Seven Directions Ceremony
Two Bears is a typical modern man of mixed race; he raised a family of four children and faced all the common challenges of this day and age. Some of these were divorce, alcohol abuse, climb and crash of career, single parenthood, etc. He found ways to not only deal with these challenges, but ways to triumphantly overturn them to live a fulfilled and fruitful life.
How did he “discover” these lessons? He spend his life living in harmony with nature, the most trustworthy teacher there is. He was shown these ceremonies buy direct revelation, now tried and true, ceremonies that are effective and real, because the work!
What can you receive from these ceremonies? They are intended to help you find your own particular place and function in the great circle of life and help you become the highest expression of what you were meant to be. The ceremonies not only help you discover what you are here for, but also how to receive the gifts and power to accomplish that
First Ceremony: Receiving a Name.
A name is given by the Great Mystery to help one understand who they are, who they are to become and what spiritual forces are aligned with them to help become the name. You grow into your name. You do not choose it; it chooses you, coming from the heart of the Mystery itself.
Second ceremony: Meeting your council.
On a spiritual journey, you gather items from the wilderness that you are led to by the spirits of nature. The items you receive on this search will indicate further entities and allies that will be with you throughout your life to assist you in all you do. Some call them guides; others might refer to them as guardian angels. The symbols of these helpers are sewn into a pouch that you wear around your neck for the rest of your life, a physical reminder of the spiritual help you enjoy.
Third ceremony: The Vigil
Traditionally a boy coming into manhood would go on a fast away from all others to find out what his “calling” or purpose in life was. Today many men are wandering aimlessly without a clue why they are here in this lifetime. Through this ceremony you can received a vision of not only understand your purpose, but how to receive the gifts that empower you to accomplish it.
Forth ceremony: Facing your fear.
If you are called into a life of spiritual service to others, you will most likely be given the opportunity to experience a ceremony called the “Facing your Fear”. Through this ceremony you will be confronted by your greatest fears, overcoming them so you can help others face theirs. This ceremony is not for everyone.
Fifth ceremony: The Seven Direction Ceremony.
Again, this ceremony is for those who are called to live a life of spiritual service. It is a kind of “gradation” ceremony wherein one is acknowledged by the spiritual realm as being ready to “walk as a servant”. Again, through this ceremony one receives the additional gifts and power to accomplish this life of
Thank you so much for sharing this with us
all Jim, It is very important stuff.
It has been an honour and a privilege to
spend some very sacred time with you and to help you to inform the
human population how to live in harmony with 'All Our Relations'.
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modern ritual for young men
by Steven Foster
of the articles in Gender (IC#16) Spring 1987, Page 50
Copyright (c)1987, 1997 by Context Institute
As I lived out my own passage I found lots of folk around me wanting
to do the same. It was like the world was hungry for this kind of
deep, and contagious, experience. So it is refreshing to find Foster's
article spinning out new possibilities for boys (and men) that could
be used in many contexts , from a Boy Scout troop or a YMCA camp to
more informal settings.
Steven Foster, with Meredith Little, co-founded and co-directed Rites
of Passage, Inc. for ten years in Marin County, California. They now
direct The School of Lost Borders (Big Pine, CA), a training facility
in vision quest methods and traditions. They have accompanied more
than 1000 young people and adults through various vision quest
A companion piece to this is "The Vision Quest: Passing form
Childhood to Adulthood" in Betwixt and Between: Initiations
Ancient and Modern (New York: Open Court, 1987, ed. Louise Mandi).
- Rick Gossett
MODERN AMERICAN MALES possess few meaningful, ceremonial means of
formally marking their passage from boyhood to manhood. What our
culture does provide (high school "commencement," diver's
license, the armed services, higher education, voting rights, drinking
rights, employment, the age of 21, possible marriage and fatherhood)
can hardly be said to comprise a coherent rite of passage. Now that
nearly 50% of American marriages end in divorce, the father and mother
must prepare their man-child for adulthood separately, in different
homes, often with contradictory values. Sometimes the influence of the
father in the upbringing of his son is negligible or nil. Sometimes
the sexual passage, perhaps the single most important adult
initiation, is ignored, avoided, or distorted by the parents. The
young man is left to piece together the meaning of his sexuality with
his peers and such cultural "aids" as the mass media.
In attempting to remedy this by designing a meaningful rite of passage
into manhood, we must be aware that a modern passage rite does not
contain the full social force of a traditional one. At the present
time, our culture does not validate or focus on such rites. For a
modern passage ceremony to gain the full power of an ancient one, the
very drift of our culture toward secular materialism would have to be
diverted. The young would have to grow up knowing, even as little
tads, that they were getting ready for their rite of passage into
manhood. But given the reality of our culture, we can only start with
what we have and work to create the best model possible under the
THE COMPONENTS OF AN ADEQUATE MODEL
Before describing a model rite in detail, I will mention a few key
elements whose importance must be understood. The basic dynamic of a
rite of passage is described by an anthropological formula that
underlies all passage ceremonies. First depicted by Arnold van Gennep,
this formula divides such rites into three phases: an end (severance
from childhood), a middle (threshold) and a beginning (incorporation
into manhood). In other words, a rite of passage begins with an ending
and ends with a beginning.
The Heart Of The Experience. The liminal (or threshold) phase, the
central experience of the rite, is always performed in a secluded,
wild zone, away from the encroachments of other humans. Within the
sacred threshold enclosure, the boy becomes acquainted with his real
Mother, symbolized by that part of himself known as the goddess.
Through her, he senses his true place on earth and his true place in
his body. She will show him the image of his own fear of death
reflected in the natural world around him. The candidate's power place
on Mother Earth will serve as both a womb and a tomb, a place of birth
for the man and a place of death for the boy, in the mystery of the
natural world. There he will learn the challenge of being a man, a son
of the Mother, and a brother to all the things on the earth. He will
emerge from the split husk of his childhood with the goddess at his
right shoulder. The ritual birth of a man must take place here, in the
wilderworld of his true home. It has always been so, and will always
be. The boy must learn that his Mother cares for and rewards those who
care for and respect her. He cannot learn this sitting in an enclosed
room. He must leave the comfortable placenta of boyhood and enter the
all-powerful world of the goddess. She visits with him in the winds;
she shakes him in her fist of thunder. She blinds him with her
lightning eyes. But mostly she blesses him with the birth of herself
within him as his own eternal, internal guide.
Taboo And Trial. A rite of passage always includes one or more ordeals
or trials. The boy's experience of the trial is the formal
confirmation of his readiness to take on the role of manhood. Though
threshold trial models are many and diverse, certain taboos or means
of being tried are common to most. One is the trial of aloneness or
solitude. The boy is denied the support and comfort of others and is
left alone in a wild place for extended periods of time. With no one
to go to, he is forced to deal with outward circumstances by
discovering inner resources of strength and resolve. Without other
human eyes to judge him, the candidate watches himself "be."
Apart from the accoutrements of his boyhood life, he learns what is
essential to him - and what is not. The closed door of his heart opens
to the beauty and mystery of the natural world around him. He becomes
aware of and communicates with his natural relations, the other
creature children of his Mother. Another restriction almost
universally practiced is the prohibition of food. Among ceremonial
tools, fasting is one of the oldest and finest. The candidate's psyche
is opened to orchestration by the elements and rhythms of the natural
world. Sunrise is his meat and noon is his wine. Although his physical
strength wanes, another kind of strength gathers within him: the
silent, immovable strength of the great mountains. Without ballast in
his belly, he orients himself to the harmony and proportion of his
Mother, compensating for loss of strength by applying the muscle of
spirit. The goddess rushes into the breach and teaches him about
surrender. A man who does not know the power of surrender does not
possess true power.
Male Midwives. One of the most important components in any model of an
adequate rite of male passage is the presence of older men, or elders,
who supervise and enrich the progress of the young men through the
ceremonial birth canal. The older men help the younger men to bring
themselves forth. They are not there to answer questions, but to ask
them. They work to enable their charges to give birth to answers of
their own, to know themselves. The midwives are exclusively male,
because the time has come for the boys to become men, to live in, to
respect, and to accept the men's world. A father must not be the
principal midwife to his son, as the past often shadows them with too
many habits for the father to be an effective teacher or the son an
Discipline And Work. The classic archetypal male is unaccustomed to
self-indulgence. He has learned to accept hardship as his lot. He does
not brag of his harsh life nor does he secretly hope his woman will
pity him. This is the man's way. Any passage rite for men must include
components of hard work and self- discipline. The candidates must be
expected to be part of the group, to pull their own weight. Hence, the
young men facing adulthood must be gathered together within a communal
order where each has his work and does it, as part of the preparation
for the passage. They must be expected to accept the discipline that
communal living brings and to seek the joy that comes with the
exercising of self-control and the intimate knowledge of the meaning
Sexual Instruction. Sexual instruction and advice on marriage is
traditionally a part of ceremonies of passage into manhood. The
importance of a young man coming to understand and accept the power of
his own sexuality cannot be underestimated. Any ceremony of passage
into adulthood must take into account the young man's sexual growth
and relationships with women (or men, if he is gay or bisexual). Open,
honest, adult sexual education would seem necessary and appropriate.
Supervised by wise, qualified male elders, such education might also
include older women who can present the issue from the feminine point
of view. Without the woman's input, the candidate's sexual education
would only be half complete.
Giving Birth To The Goddess. All young men require an official
introduction to the intuitive, psychic, and mysterious darkness of
their inner beings. They need to learn how to surrender, how to listen
closely to an inner voice, how to clarify their values, how to pray,
how to seek vision, and how to prophesy. All young men must ask
themselves such questions as: "To whom do I pray?" "Who
are my sacred ancestors?" "What is my life story?"
"Why was I born?" "Why will I die?" "Who are
the true heroes and teachers of my life?" "What gifts have I
been blessed with?" "Who are my people?" Above all,
young men must confront and ponder the meaning of death. Time spent
with death will make an inward space in them, and the goddess will be
born and live within this death space. Her presence will enrich his
appreciation of life and enable him to face the justice of his own
A MODEL FOR A MODERN RITE OF PASSAGE
Applying these elements and more, I have created a model for a modern
male rite of passage. What follows is a somewhat detailed description
of that model.
The boys who are candidates for passage into manhood formally begin
the severance phase one week after their graduation from high school.
They leave their childhood homes and families behind and assemble with
older men, elders and midwives of the community, at a retreat in a
secluded, natural place. There they remain for nearly one month, or
one cycle of the moon, during which time they enact the rite of
passage into manhood. During the month in which they are gathered
together, the young men are not allowed to leave. The area is sealed
off and consecrated for the purposes of the rite. No drugs, alcohol,
or non-participants are allowed.
Severance: The End Of Boyhood. The severance phase lasts
approximately 20 days. It ends when each initiate crosses the
threshold and undertakes the ordeal of the second phase. During the
time of preparation, the candidates and the older men live together in
large tents or yurts in groups of 25 (20 candidates, 5 midwives). All
work and cooking are shared on a communal basis among the men. Each
group is led through a disciplined routine of daily activities and
classes by the five elders appointed for that purpose.
Throughout the ceremony, from end to beginning, each midwife is
responsible for the welfare of four candidates. His role is to
facilitate their passage through the three phases of the ceremony, to
personify the Mentor function to them, to aid them in giving birth to
the goddess. He acts as surrogate uncle, teacher, counsellor,
wilderness guide, vocational guidance counsellor, personal friend, or
superior officer, according to what is needed at the moment. The
curriculum for each group includes the following:
• Activities related to the natural environment and self-orientation
within it: solo or group medicine walks, night hikes, environmental
awareness studies, "survival" activities, and individual
seclusion in a natural place at least once a day.
• Activities related to the use of the intuitive or
"feeling" faculties: instruction in self-hypnosis,
meditation, communication with other species, listening to the
"inner voice," praying, and other "goddess"
• Physical education with emphasis on cooperation, leadership,
self-discipline, and consensus democracy: ropes and obstacle courses,
relay races, and other activities involving group problem-solving.
• Sexual education, from the mechanics of "how to" and
contraception to broader issues of relationship, including marriage
and fatherhood: films, other audio- visual aids, and frank discussions
of ethics and manners involving women elders as co-facilitators.
• Spiritual education with emphasis on individual religious
expression: personal values, ethics and morality, storytelling, myths,
discussions regarding death, after-life, life destiny, and personal
• Preparation on an individual basis for incorporation as a man: the
setting of goals and priorities, vocational counselling, clarification
of personal ambitions regarding profession, and other concrete
particulars involving life on the physical plane as a man.
• Ceremonies of togetherness and preparation: saunas, sweat lodges,
communal bathing, or other activities involving self-purification.
• Activities relating to preparation for the threshold trial itself.
On the eve of the threshold trial, all the candidates and midwives
assemble together, and a celebration of the end of boyhood is held. At
that time, each candidate is given an opportunity to symbolically
enact his severance from childhood. Then the individual groups of 20
reassemble with their midwives and embark on their several journeys to
remote, secluded areas where the threshold trial will be enacted. The
following morning, the trial begins.
Threshold: Passage Through The Goddess. Each
candidate is removed from human contact. With just the barest
essentials requisite to his survival, he lives alone in a wild,
natural place for four days and nights. Though water will be provided
during this time, he otherwise ingests neither food nor any other kind
of sustenance, relying on the beneficence of Mother Earth to protect,
nurture, and teach him. Depending on the advice of midwives, he may or
may not undertake certain ceremonial activities during his time alone
to heighten his receptivity to Nature, the goddess, and the spirits or
deities he worships. But the basic elements of trial - aloneness,
fasting, and exposure - must be preserved in as pure a state as
The threshold trial must be designed with an eye to harmony and
balance. The idea is not to make the candidate suffer unduly for the
sake of a "vision." What really matters is whether or not
each candidate stands ready, with a pure heart, to receive impressions
from his experience. With the limitation of his fast and his
environment, each candidate should feel free to express himself as he
desires, to investigate the many dimensions of his being as reflected
by the natural setting, He may spend his time walking, sitting,
meditating, sleeping, dreaming, praying, crying for a vision, writing
in a journal, talking with the stones or the wind. Regardless of what
he does, he will learn to yield, to be patient, to watch himself, to
look within, and to listen to the voice of the goddess.
The allegorical nature of the trial must be clear to each candidate.
He is enacting a story with a mortal/immortal meaning whose main
protagonist is both human and divine. The protagonist lives out the
plot of the story in an environment having two levels of meaning. The
goddess is both nature and his own anima. Fear is both a monster and
an opportunity. A dream is both dream and divine visitation. Absence
from the company of others is also presence with their spirits. Signs
or messages appear in this natural/sacred world, carrying the same
double meanings. An animal is both an animal and a spirit. A mountain
is both a mountain and a god. A star is both a star and an angel. A
mosquito is both a nuisance and a messenger. A sunrise is both a
sunrise and a birth.
The midwives should employ effective means to insure the safety of
their charges while they are alone. A system of daily checks called
the "buddy system," whereby their safety is ascertained
(without their solitude being intruded upon) can be effectively used.
Provision must also be made for the early return of candidates to base camp,
should they become ill, suffer accident, or otherwise be unable to
continue their lonely vigils. The early return of a candidate, for
whatever reason, must not be accounted shameful or a failure. Rather,
he should be encouraged to come to an understanding of why he returned
and what he learned from such an action. He must then be given another
opportunity the following year to confirm his readiness by completing
Incorporation: The Birth Of A Man.
The incorporation of a boy into manhood is not without its
difficulties. Birthing is accompanied by powerful contractions and
much inner conflict. The new man meets and takes on the consequences
of his boyhood life; he finds out whether or not he learned his
lessons well. His return from the threshold is a delicate matter not
to be treated lightly by the male elders. Now he is back in the
"secular" world of his everyday body, and his life as a man
stretches before him.
The confusion and bewilderment of the incorporation phase (especially
in its initial stages) can be mitigated by the elders' careful,
ceremonial attention to the re-entry process. Each candidate's spirit
must be brought back into his body and aided to reside there solidly.
Each candidate must be debriefed and helped to see the meaning of his
threshold experience. Each must be formally welcomed and recognized as
a man, brought into the group of men, and given a symbolic gift by his
midwives. Then a sauna, sweat lodge, or bathing ceremony can be held,
at which time the dust of the threshold world can be flushed from the
new men's bodies and prayers said in thanksgiving for their
well-being. After the ablutions might come new clothes befitting a
man, a feast of thanksgiving, and a time of giving. Afterwards, a
council of elders may be convened and the young men brought in one by
one to answer the elders' questions regarding their threshold
experience. The elders can offer comments and suggestions regarding
each young man's future course, personal gifts, life story, etc., in a
positive, supportive manner. Within the first two days of their
re-entry, the young men must also be given a good deal of time to be
alone, to rest, and to reflect on their encounter with the goddess.
On the third day after their return, the separate groups reassemble
for a mutual celebration of their brotherhood, to formally mark the
conclusion of the rite of passage. Soon after, the gathering packs up
and return to the community. There, a final celebration of
commencement into manhood is held for the new men and all those who
had a hand in their childhood growth. The parents can be singled out
for special honours for their untiring efforts on behalf of their sons
and the community at large.
BEGINNING A NEW LIFE
When the ceremonies and congratulations are over, the new men enter
the mainstream of adult male life. They live apart, independent of
home, working for their bread, attending college, enlisting in the
armed services, getting married, etc. They do not return to their
boyhood living situations unless, for unusual reasons, they cannot do
otherwise. If they must return to their old homes, they must
henceforth be treated as adults, and adult behaviour and attitudes
must be expected from them. As the new men grow older and themselves
become fathers, they will return to participate as midwives in the
births of other men.
Within a week or two of the rite's conclusion, most of the candidates
will experience a predictable depression, a period of integration when
the enormity of the step taken becomes apparent. The new man may feel
like forgetting about this manhood nonsense and wish fervently he
could be back home in his childhood nest. Such feelings should not be
seen as a setback, but as a challenge. For most new men, this
depression strengthens their ability and resolve to live as men.
Within a few weeks of their return, each group of candidates might
plan a reunion meeting with their midwives to discuss their progress
in their new lives. Further support meetings might be scheduled by
those in the group who feel a further need for them. The emphasis on
such meetings would be not on problem-solving but on sharing,
friendship, and brotherhood. As time passes, the new men should be
weaned away from the glory and hoopla of the rite of passage ceremony
and cleave to the goddess and to their "people," those who,
as men, they are committed to serve with the give-away of their lives:
Now you belong to your greater mother. And you return to
her womb to emerge once again, as a man who knows himself not as an
individual but a unit of his tribe and a part of all life which ever
- Frank Waters, The Man Who Killed The Deer
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